CONVERSATION GOALS

Ensure the person is physically and mentally safe.

Show the person you care about them.

Strengthen the relationship you have with them.

road blocks

Fear of losing them as a friend


Not knowing how to have tough conversations


Questioning whether you should get involved


Being concerned that you’ll say the wrong thing

FEELING UNEASY

what are tough topics

Substance use, destructive relationships, self-harm, skipping school, eating disorders, and anything that could harm their or someone else’s health and safety.

Have a P.L.A.N.

Plan what to say

Decide when and where you will talk, use “I” statements, and stick to the formula.

Listen

Give full attention and eye contact, and summarize what they say.

Assertive

Avoid being passive or aggressive and be clear about your concerns.

Never play counselor

Know your limits and ask for help when needed.

Know the Formula

Care: Remind them that you care. 

“I care about our friendship, and I need to talk to you about something I’m concerned about.”

What: Describe what your concerns are.

“Several things have happened lately (1-2 examples).”

How: Explain how these concerns impact your friendship.

“These things I’m concerned about have affected our friendship.”

Need: Tell them your needs and ask that they seek help or talk to a trusted adult.

“I think you should talk to a trusted adult about these concerns and I will even go with you.”

FEELING OVERWHELMED?

CONTACT A COUNSELOR

CONTACT